Talking to anger.

The coaching topic that I’m working on right now is, “To more skillfully process my anger in the moment so I can capture the core insight it has to offer and bring that clarity into my writing.” This is important to me because I want to feel seen and heard through my creative work and, until I get a handle on my anger, that’s not going to happen.

Writing as self-care.

I can’t hide from myself on the page when I write in this way. I can’t edit out the undesirable and unattractive. I can’t even escape the possibility of filling up line upon line of my cahier with noise that might drown out what is actually asking to be transcribed. Trust me, I have tried.

Budget like a writer.

Why now, a couple of months after turning 30, did I finally feel compelled to have an honest, heart-to-wallet with myself about the numbers in my bank account? Truthfully, entering a new decade had something to do with it. I had been telling myself the story that I’d be debt-free by then — by now — and, by the time I blew out the candles on my non-existent birthday cake, I had to acknowledge that I was actually in more debt than when I’d first set that goal for myself.

On doing more with less.

On the one hand, we’re craving simplicity. We want to be seen and heard and known for doing something memorable. On the other hand, we don’t want to go through the discomfort of letting go of what’s not meant for us. The hard truth about being in this spot is that we have to choose one or the other. Otherwise, we risk selling ourselves short and not reaching our full potential.

Exploring your inner truth.

Before you can speak and live your truth, you need to know your truth. Which means you need to spend some time thinking about what your truth is. Not as an afterthought. Not as something ambiguous or indirect. As the skeleton that makes up the architecture of your life. Until you can tap into your truth within yourself, you’re never going to be able to articulate it to others. Without those words and a deep understanding of your inner world, you’ll continue to struggle to become the human you’re longing to be.

On where to begin when you're hungry to speak your truth.

When you start to speak your truth, shit happens. Good shit, for sure, and still not always at a scale and speed that feels manageable. This is how speaking your truth inevitably turns into living your truth. You become so clear in what you’re asking for—and in what you’re able to contribute—that things tend to fall into place quiet quickly.

How to get clear on what you need in 2k18.

Before you can become more amplified and grow your tribe in 2k18, you’re going to have to sort through the unneeded clutter that’s taking up space in your head and heart. Instead of trying to organize it as you go—and ending up exhausted, overwhelmed and uninspired—you’re going to pull everything out so you can see it clearly and then decide what you’re going to focus on nurturing moving forward.

On making 2k18 the year you need it to be.

Let’s talk about how to make 2k18 the year you need it to be. Whether you’re longing to become more articulate so you can speak your truth or you’re hungry to amplify your voice so you can intentionally grow your tribe, now is the time to make that shit happen.

On witnessing as an essential part of healing.

And, while we must be the ones to cross the threshold when it is time, we don’t have to do in the quiet and dark of solitude. The healing of the individual is the healing of the collective; there is reciprocity for both the witness and the one who is being witnessed. We were never meant to do this work on our own

On income, impact & being called on my bullsh*t.

It felt so wrong. This could not be the work I was meant to be doing. Not even trying to prevent these recurring mistakes was the work I was meant to be doing. Of course, this was not all my job entailed. And, I had stopped caring. My integrity no longer lays in the quality of work that I was able to do for other people or in my ability to deal the stress of disorganized deliverables. What mattered was that I was owning up to the scale of impact that I am able to have if I put my skills to use in the ways I know I am capable of doing.

On practice.

When you put these two pieces together—awareness of your current way of being and specific practices that will help you both interrupt your current way of being as well as develop and embody your new way of being—moving past your current pain points is inevitable. Even though it’s still the work, it’s the shortest path home.

Peanut butter ≠ love.

I developed an eating disorder when I was 10 years old. The why isn’t so important as is my recent realization that food became a substitute for the connection I was so hungry for. Without knowing it, I would spend the better part of two decades confusing calories for love. As such, my weight would swing from one extreme to the other and I often felt trapped inside my body. It’s only now, a few months shy of 30 that I feel equipped to begin the process of shifting my relationship with food, my body and my emotions.

On love.

I woke up this morning painfully aware of the fact that as much as I would like this other human to reciprocate my feelings so I could be done with this whole lack-of-love narrative, life was doing me a favour putting me on that plane when it did. I have just been gifted the awareness needed to shine a light the work I need to be doing on myself so that one day I can enjoy the sort of love that has always felt just out of reach.

On process.

From here on out my blog is going to be comprised of only three categories: process, practice and poetry. Just like Hemingway, I’m going to give myself to you straight and unfiltered while keeping in mind his words of wisdom: "The first draft of anything is shit."

On being seen.

If you know me, you know that I am an open person. From the way in which I show up in conversation to the things I post on social media, I am vulnerable to a fault.