This is a practice I created last year to help me get clearer on how I spend money. Note that your Current Way of Being is how you’re currently showing up—through your beliefs, actions, doings, reactions, and ways of checking—and your New Way of Being is how you’d like to show up. In Integral Coaching®️ we use metaphors as a way to capture these two different Ways of Being.
Developing my ability to discern between financial wants and needs using my body as a gauge. This includes both expenses as well as income when it’s time to quote a client for a project.
The purpose of this exercise is to develop your ability to discern between financial wants and needs using your body as a gauge.
Whereas your Current Way of Being checks out when making financial decisions, your New Way of Being checks into their body and sources the clarity of that vessel. Your New Way of Being knows that even when they’re feeling overwhelmed about money, they can always check in with their body to know what the next move needs to be. You’re able to use your body as a conduit for making choices that lead to greater financial stability.
Throughout your day, when it’s time to make a financial decision—whether that’s quoting a project or making a purchase—take a moment to check in with your body and source the wisdom that’s available there.
Start with your breath. Take 5-10 deep inhales and long exhales.
Continue to breathe fully and scan your attention through your body. Start at the top of your head and move slowly down to the soles of your feet.
As you scan, notice areas of tension and/or disconnection in your body. Relax any tight spots you find and invite disconnected areas of your body to feel sensation.
If you need to, pause and breathe with parts of your body that need extra attention.
Once you feel in your body, call to mind the financial decision that you need to make. As much as possible, be specific with the numbers/situation.
Invite the thought into your body and breath with it for 5-10 breaths without reaching for an answer.
Now check in with your body and see how it’s responding to this particular money situation.
Make any necessary adjustments and sit with those adjustments for 5-10 breaths each.
When your body lets you know that you’ve come to a stability-building decision, take one more breath to ground that choice in your body.
If you’re pressed for time and feel like you can’t fit in a body check-in, reschedule the decision for a time when you can give it the proper attention that it needs.
Daily Reflection Questions
At the end of the day: Please take an additional 15 minutes to reflect on the experience of developing your ability to discern between financial wants and needs using your body as a gauge. Answer only the questions that feel manageable on the day. If need be, answer only one and allow that to be enough.
What were all your options as your Current Way of Being when making financial decisions today?
What logic did your Current Way of Being use to influence their decisions today?
Where in the body did your New Way of Being feel their financial decisions today?
Weekly Reflection Questions
At the end of each week: Please take 30 minutes to reflect on the experience of developing your ability to discern between financial wants and needs using your body as a gauge. Answer only the questions that feel manageable on the day. If need be, answer only one and allow that to be enough.
How does your Current Way of Being react to the results of the chosen decision and its impact on her?
If the your Current Way of Being won at making a decision this week, what outcomes happened?
What lets your New Way of Being know that they’ve made a supportive decision?