Years ago, in an introductory course on Ayurveda with Matthew Remski, I asked how he knew the appropriate scale of change to suggest that his clients take on.
He used coffee as an example.
According to traditional Indian medicine, if you’re trying to wean yourself off coffee, you should reduce your intake by one tablespoon on days when the sun is shining and you feel like it.
That’s how the small and slow the scale and pace of change can be.
We live in a world that capitalizes off of promising us overnight transformation and fast ways to solve our longest standing problems. Marketing creates a sense of urgency and/or of scarcity so that we buy now.
Otherwise, we risk missing out. We risk being the one left behind.
So we race towards the finish line before we’ve given proper thought to whether or not we want to be running that race to begin with.
We look for the promise of now over the promise of long-term stability, sustainability, scalability, and success.
And we pay the price.
We pay the price when we stretch too far too fast. Our bodies push back. Our current way of being pushes back. We get burnt out and need to stop to rebuild, reorient, and reengage with our goals.
So, as important as it is to focus on the micro-goals that will lead to the bigger outcomes you’re working towards, it’s equally important that you’re letting yourself move slowly.
Taking tiny bites and really chewing on them before taking the next bite.
Giving yourself time to adjust to your new reality every step of the way.
And while it may take you a bit longer to get experience what’s most important to you, you’re much more likely to get there.
Which is what really matters.
I recently decided to slow down paying off my debt so that I can have more financial breathing room to build an emergency fund and allocate more time towards my creative writing. What I’ve discovered since I made this switch at the beginning of the year is that as impatient as I am to be debt-free, I will have much more to show for my efforts by the time I get there.
So, how can you give yourself more time to become who it is you want to be?
How can you slow things down even more?