Writer & Integral MAsTER Coach™

The muchness.

The muchness.

We are surrounded by narratives that tell us that what we have is not enough. We need to make more money, set bigger goals, and constantly stretch ourselves to keep up with a race that none of us will ever win.

In an effort to be more, make more, and do more we seek out solutions that allow us to be more efficient, more productive, and more streamlined in the way we move through the world. It’s no wonder coaching has become increasingly popular; we need every bit of support we can get to just keep up.

It’s too much.

I have had numerous conversations over the past few months with various creative folk about what it means to be successful. The consensus has largely been that success has something to do with being able to show up and create on a regular basis.

Money lends itself to that narrative only in so much that it becomes a means to spend more time creating. Goals serve as deadlines that ensure work gets published, regardless of who reads it. And the point of moving forward is not to get somewhere as quickly as possible but to live well along the way.

All any of us needs to be happy and fulfilled is just enough.

Of course, the scale of “just enough” varies from person to person, from artist to artist. There are poets who are happy to write in a cabin in the woods and there are the fashion designers who want to cover their garments in diamonds. Both are valid and opulent in their own way.

The rest of it—the muchness—is what we need to become more skillful at editing. Perhaps this is why the work of Marie Kondo has exploded in popularity recently. We need help managing the muchness; seeing what sparks joy and can stay and what does not and needs to go.

The alternative is to be perpetually overwhelmed.

Overwhelmed by your options. By the lives you could be living. The work you could be doing. The money you could be making. All this does is get in the way of you showing up on a consistent basis and doing your best work.

The challenge for all of us, then, is to reset our way of checking for what’s just enough versus what’s too much. Because if we look to the noise and visuals and stories around us, we will always feel like we’re not enough.

So, how do you know when you have just enough versus too much?

Community as container.

Community as container.

Healing in community.

Healing in community.